“You have Vaginal Prolapse.” These are perhaps the scariest words most women can hear! I didn’t hear the words until I was 32.
I was doing a party for a group of nurses in Kansas City and one of the partygoers mentioned it to me and asked if I had something that could help. She was 24 and had vaginal prolapse.
She was young, physically fit, had never been pregnant or had children. That’s scarier!
Vaginal prolapse doesn’t discriminate. You can be old, young, thin, fat, short, tall, no pregnancies or 12 births and it will still randomly pick and choose who gets to have all the fun!
While I highly recommend that you educate yourself on this condition, I am begging you not to look at images – you can’t “un-see” that! It haunted me for years! LOL
Many nurses refer to vaginal prolapse as “a pink sock”. That’s what it looks like when your vagina is hanging out. I can already picture myself in a nursing home somewhere yelling, “Don’t step on that! It’s my cervix! Where the hell is ASHY?!” Good times…
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The first time I ever heard the word “kegel” is right after my son was born. The doctor came into my room, handed me a bag of pamphlets, Xerox copies of information, some product samples of hemorrhoid cream and some coupons. It was like a “free gift with birth” packet, I think.
He’s mumbling words and holding a pamphlet in his hand as he spoke and finally handed it to me before he left with a quick, “Oh, you should read about these and do this” and turned and left.
I’m reading through it and learning about Kegels, how to do them and how they can help to put things back where they go after giving birth and my only thought in my
I clearly did not understand the purpose of
Kegel Benefits
There are many benefits to doing regular
A few of my favorites are:
- Increased bladder control. Do you tinkle a little every time you sneeze, cough or laugh? That just continues to get worse as you age if you don’t do
kegels regularly! - Little to no chance of vaginal prolapse! Depending on where you do your research on Kegel exercises, some say that doing
kegels daily will 100% prevent vaginal prolapse, others say there is a very small chance of vaginal prolapse, either way, these are the ONLY exercises that I fully recommend. - Increase chances and/or intensity of your orgasm.
- Improved relationship between you and your body – it’s yours! Get to know it!
How To Do Kegel Exercises
Learning to do Kegel exercises is really quite simple. The best way to learn is during urination. Whatever muscle it is that you use to stop and continue the flow of urine is a Kegel exercise.
You’ll learn how to contract and release the muscle, which is how to do a Kegel exercise. The BIG word of warning here is NOT to do this on a continual or frequent basis.
Stopping and starting the flow of urine is bad for the bladder and greatly increases your chances for a urinary tract infection (UTI) and no one wants that. Once you learn how to access that muscle, you won’t need to be urinating to do it!
The way that many young women are taught to do Kegels or reminded of doing Kegels is during driving. I had a fantastic gynecologist who recommended putting a happy face sticker on your rear view mirror of your car to remind you to Kegel.
When you approach a red light, the first thing you do is apply the brake, but we also, instinctively, look in the rear view mirror and that little happy face sticker would remind you that it’s time to do your special little exercises.
Unfortunately, this wasn’t a great method for me. First, I’m a very animated person and for some reason, I don’t think Kegels are effective if you’re BREATHING while doing them. I’d sit at a red light, completely clenched, holding my breath… If that’s a long light, I could easily pass out in traffic!
And what about the poor children in the car next to you, watching your face grow redder and redder, desperately waiting for that light to change to GREEN?! That’s just traumatizing for a child! “Mom! What’s wrong with that lady in the car next to us?!” You could almost read her lips say, “Oh, nothing, dear. She’s just doing her Kegels!”
The second issue with this method is that I became
I tried switching to “Kegel During Commercials” but soon after that, the DVR was born and I would just fast forward right through those! I needed a better solution!
Doing NATURAL Kegel Exercises in order to be effective, means that you do them every day, all day, during waking hours. I barely remember to breathe on a regular basis and knew this would never happen. I needed a simple solution and quickly found it – Kegel Exercisers.
We needed Kegels For Dummies! Something that would make it simple and cut down the amount of time it took to exercise love’s sweet muscle.
Ben Wa Balls were all the rage back in the day, but now it’s a known fact that metal is not body-safe and can cause harm to a woman, so those were obviously out… I also didn’t want anything “free floating” in there!
Women tend to call YOU when they have something in their vagina that won’t come out! As much I love and adore helping women, do
Hold On To Me is great for doing Kegel exercises! Just insert the first ball, leaving the other on the outside with the cord, use your fingers to gently tug on the cord and play tug-o-war with your vag! What a hoot and a half!
Your vagina will learn to contract in the right places to “hang on to” the ball and this will
What’s even better? Using these exercises twice a week for 2 minutes each time is the equivalency, if not better than doing your natural Kegels all day, every day!
You’ll know you’ve mastered it when your vagina can “pull in” the second ball all by herself! That’s impressive – I don’t care who you are!
For those of you who are a little more tech savvy and really into (vaginal) fitness, you’ll LOVE Gballs2! The app will remind you when to do Kegels, let you know how well you’re doing and you can even see how intensely you can contract those muscles!! You can take screenshots of your progress to send to potential suitors! I mean, your opening line on your Match.com profile pretty much writes itself with that!
Here’s a word of warning for those of you with ADHD. Don’t learn this lesson the hard way… Gballs2 actually VIBRATES and is quite lovely at it. Try to stay focused and remember what you’re doing or you could get a little embarrassed if someone just walks in and says, “Well, that doesn’t look like exercise to ME!” Whoopsie! “I didn’t hear you come in! How was work? Did you have a good day? Have ya seen my pants? I was about to start dinner! What sounds good?” I’m purely guessing here, but this could be awkward.